When did I stop believing in fairytales or did I?
In a world full of possibilities and the presence of the “unknown” one thing we all like to cling onto is HOPE. Each day is spent in hope and anticipation of the future .And if that is so do we ever stop believing in anything or is it that we just convince ourselves that something cannot happen based on our experience and sometimes merely for peace of mind .
This thought brings me to the dream nurtured by every little girl in her growing up years – that of the possibility of a fairytale in her life .But then do fairytales exist? What is love and more importantly what is “True Love”. I once read a quote that went – True Love is like a ghost that everyone talks about but few have seen. It made me wonder how much do we actually know about love that we can say that we are in love with someone. Are there any parameters for judging love? Set rules? Definitions? Poets and authors have been for generations trying to define this “elusive feeling” each giving his own interpretation but no common ground seems to have been sought till date.
Although I have just questioned the plausibility of trying to define or capture the essence of this deeply intense feeling called love I cannot but refrain myself from pointing out my views ( that spring from my very limited experience on this subject and my still young existence ) Humans beings by virtue of their nature cannot live in a world of suspended beliefs and are motivated by some hidden and unknown force ( that is how we convince ourselves) to take a stand ( of course on every possible subject under this sun – whether we are capable or not of this honor is a debatable question) and hence I cannot but succumb.
I strongly believe (and the rights and wrongs are always questionable) that love is the most abused and misinterpreted word of our times. Everything that one can feel for the opposite gender is termed as love either because it makes one happy to believe so or due to societal pressures to confirm. What’s worse is we also seem to have a set definition as to how a lover should behave , what he is expected to do , how he is supposed to woo , how many months he is supposed to chase his lady love , how should he propose , how should he pee ( oops sorry I got carried away ) etc .Of course any deviation ( read originality )would lead to fits of histrionics with ample amount of you don’t love me thrown in ( helped and assisted by unwanted advice and psychological analysis by everyone even remotely connected to you). Somehow it is the intrinsic property of this word love that evokes one and all to believe that they are scholars in the said discipline and can easily write a thesis on the same.
To me (and hence the views expressed are totally personal and not intended to be limiting on anyone) love is the most complex human emotion and one should have the freedom to feel and discover it on their own. Love is a feeling of such intense calm, peace and inner tranquility that it doesn’t need action or words to validate it .It is a spiritual feeling beyond physical and mental boundaries.
This thought brings me to the dream nurtured by every little girl in her growing up years – that of the possibility of a fairytale in her life .But then do fairytales exist? What is love and more importantly what is “True Love”. I once read a quote that went – True Love is like a ghost that everyone talks about but few have seen. It made me wonder how much do we actually know about love that we can say that we are in love with someone. Are there any parameters for judging love? Set rules? Definitions? Poets and authors have been for generations trying to define this “elusive feeling” each giving his own interpretation but no common ground seems to have been sought till date.
Although I have just questioned the plausibility of trying to define or capture the essence of this deeply intense feeling called love I cannot but refrain myself from pointing out my views ( that spring from my very limited experience on this subject and my still young existence ) Humans beings by virtue of their nature cannot live in a world of suspended beliefs and are motivated by some hidden and unknown force ( that is how we convince ourselves) to take a stand ( of course on every possible subject under this sun – whether we are capable or not of this honor is a debatable question) and hence I cannot but succumb.
I strongly believe (and the rights and wrongs are always questionable) that love is the most abused and misinterpreted word of our times. Everything that one can feel for the opposite gender is termed as love either because it makes one happy to believe so or due to societal pressures to confirm. What’s worse is we also seem to have a set definition as to how a lover should behave , what he is expected to do , how he is supposed to woo , how many months he is supposed to chase his lady love , how should he propose , how should he pee ( oops sorry I got carried away ) etc .Of course any deviation ( read originality )would lead to fits of histrionics with ample amount of you don’t love me thrown in ( helped and assisted by unwanted advice and psychological analysis by everyone even remotely connected to you). Somehow it is the intrinsic property of this word love that evokes one and all to believe that they are scholars in the said discipline and can easily write a thesis on the same.
To me (and hence the views expressed are totally personal and not intended to be limiting on anyone) love is the most complex human emotion and one should have the freedom to feel and discover it on their own. Love is a feeling of such intense calm, peace and inner tranquility that it doesn’t need action or words to validate it .It is a spiritual feeling beyond physical and mental boundaries.
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posted by shruti @ 12:11 PM
2 Comments:
At Saturday, 04 February, 2006,
Mind Curry said…
absolutely brilliant and i cannot but agree 100% with you. what people should understand is that certain things like belief, love, trust are all deep within a person and cannot be played around, forced or manipulated - like everyone likes to do.
At Sunday, 05 February, 2006,
shruti said…
@mind curry - Ur right and i also think that things like belief , love and trust are really powerful in themselves . They have the potential to change people for the better ( ofcourse in there pure form and not the adulterated version one sees nowadays).
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